Instead of every day, how about once a month?
Friday night we were studying and discussing Acts 2:42-47 in our Community Group. This is a passage I’ve read at least 100 times–it’s a passage that has shaped my thinking and the life of our family (don’t read that as saying we practice it perfectly, only that we strive in that direction). But this time the phrase that stuck out to me was “Everyday they continued to meet together…”.
American church culture often runs the opposite direction of this passage. We pride ourselves on not being so rigid as to expect any more than connection with the church body once or twice a month (and here I am not just or even primarily talking about church services!). We get excited when someone goes to a small group meeting and a service project in the same month. We downplay the importance of consistency in connecting with a community of faith. We joke that “regular attenders” are people who show up to something once a month.
I think we do this because our hearts aren’t right. We have somehow learned to use the number of times we gather as a test of legalism rather than passion. Those early Christians didn’t gather everyday–to worship, share meals, pray–because they wanted to get perfect attendance. They did it because they knew their young faith relied on their connection to each other and to God. They wanted to be together. They wanted to worship. They wanted to pray. We often see these things as obligations to be avoided or things we fit in when our busy schedules allow for it.
The point here is not what our times together look like. It could be a church service, a shared dinner, a small group, or birthday party, or whatever (it would be best if it meant all these things). The point is to ask the question–do we view being with other believers in the context of worship, growing relationships, and mission as essential or optional?
This hit me in regard to the way I lead as a pastor. I realized that I often say things like, “just make it when you can,” or “Christianity isn’t about church services.” While my intentions are to paint a faith that is active and growing everyday, not just once a week, and to not guilt people into gathering, what it communicates is that gathering isn’t important. But gathering is important. We need to be together on a regular basis. We need to share meals, to do service projects, to have Bible studies, to worship together, and more. Our commitment to being together regularly–even as much as possible–is essential to our growth as disciples of Jesus and our love for one another and the world. So personally I’m going to work hard on holding up the value of gathering together–whatever form that takes–rather than downplaying it.
A commitment to gathering together will require the sacrifice of other good things. It might mean going to the mountains Saturday afternoon instead of Sunday morning. It might mean inviting others over to watch the football game with me instead of just hanging out alone. It might mean getting together with people to pray even though it makes me feel uncomfortable. It certainly will mean laying down our busyness, individualism, and desire to do what’s easy. It means discovering what it means to live life together as the body of Christ for His glory and the sake of the world.